It Takes A Village

Updated: Nov 13, 2021

Tom Adams: My Lovelogical® Pops

Growing up in Detroit was truly an experience for me. Fortunately, I was raised during a time when the phrase “It takes a village” was adhered to in every household. The village was the neighborhood. Most often the block you lived on.

We played outside all day long. Our family did not have to worry as much about “stranger danger” as much as we do today. Mainly because our neighbors where always watching out. Not only were they watching they could discipline you as well.

I can’t even tell how many times, Mrs. Jackie, Mrs. Carol, Mrs. Ann and Mrs. Connie caught me doing something and “talked” to me with a stern hand before sending me home to my parents. Before I could walk a few houses my mom would be waiting for me at the front door. Momma was waiting for me to tell the truth.

As the child of Phyllis and Lonnie I knew I had better tell the truth because the mothers of the block had already shared what was witnessed by them. There was no such thing as a parent saying, “Don’t tell me nothing about my child” or “How dare you touch my child?” No we were raised by the village.

At the age of 12, I met a friend from what was at that time a different world to me. My father made a good living for our family working at Chrysler. Don’t fret that is a different blog within itself.

However, my friends parents were college graduates. The difference between the two sets of parents was education and daily attire. This was the year I met my Lovelogical parents who were an active part of my growth and life throughout the years.

My biological parents were momma and daddy. My Lovelogicals were moms and pops, Tom and Jean Adams. My parents knew I was safe with moms and pops. In my mid-teens is when I really started spending more time around them adding to the lessons learned at home. Learning and being encouraged to attend college.

Over the years, both my momma and moms passed away. Both daddy and pops watched over and contributed to my many lessons learned. My children were blessed with the love of my dad and pops from my side of the family. Daddy loved and gave great advice on life lesson learned through the years. Pops taught the same kind of lessons but from a different and entrepreneurial perspective.

My daddy taught my son how to wear a suit and tie and tie. Pops taught him how to dress daily like a man and command respect just in how he carries himself.

Daddy taught my daughter how to be loved and respected by showing her both until the day he passed. Now she has pops teaching her as a teenager how to be treated when she starts dating. He is teaching also helping me teach her how to be a lady and what to expect from a good man. Pops actually took her to have her first lobster. He is now forever her pops too. She also knows and will always remember her pawpaw, my daddy, is watching over her as well.

Pops has been there for me for most of my years. I credit pops for being a big part of who I am and how to dress to command respect. He also played a large role in my entrepreneurial spirit, along with my momma.

I remember watching him build his current businesses starting at the dining room table. The business grew to the family basement to a luxury office building in downtown Detroit. Now an entire floor in Southfield houses his offices.

Pops is successful businessman, who I have admired since I was a child. He has created successful companies, T.J. Adams Staffing, and non-profit organization, Chance for Life. He is a boss to some, a manager of others, a mentor to many, but he will always be my Lovelogical pops!

I am sure my dad is looking at him with a smile knowing his family is in good hands.

Please sit back and enjoy my Lovelogical interview I did with Pops, Tom Adams, a few years back. I was excited to share his success and love with my Lovelogical family.

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We would also like to know how your Lovelogical family has inspired and groomed you.

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